6 Qualities of Extremely attractive people that grab our attention.

— They consider themselves as an instrument to play.

Vaishnavi Paliwal
5 min readSep 3, 2020
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What you think about the word attractive, which we commonly use to embrace someone? That having traits which arouse our interest in them, and their uniqueness, Catches our eyes.

Might a person attracted to other people because of their physical appearance, way of interaction, mindset, and lifestyle? Am I right or wrong? It depends on which features he embraces the most that will appeal to him.

Me as a person judges personality through people’s way of thinking, body language, and looks are what matters to me. I find them appealing those with different mindset and body language.

I might be wrong because there are many more qualities that grab our mind and attention. So, which quality you consider most appealing in a person. Think about it.

Every person is unique in their ways, but attractive people who catch most of the mind got some unknown traits in their inner-self and mindset. One evening I was watching a movie and in that I find the lead had something much more than his external looks as there are many in our surroundings with best physique or beautiful face but are they attracted to you for the long term. No.

Then I decided to search on these invisible traits and the psychology behind it. Landed on to do research on the qualities of attractive people in psychology today. Got unexpected results of thinking behind their fascinating power.

These 6 qualities are easy to understand but will take time to implement on you. It depends on your efforts to achieve them as early as possible. If implemented it will change your life and mindset towards fascination. Introduction to a new you.

They have a custom, direct approach.

These people have confidence to approach the other person directly by calling out the precise name with honor, making the person feel comfortable and noticed. Then they will embrace you and find you appealing. Respect does it all. As an introvert it worked for me like gold in a bin.

You can also make other people feel special by making them comfortable and complimenting their style. This trait will make you different from the crowd to that person and find you easy-going to interact whenever they want.

It doesn’t necessarily to be Brad Pitt or Kim Kardashian guys to be attractive to people. You can practice something more appealing.

Make direct eye-contact with a smile while talking to a person or an audience builds confidence and categorize you into engaging trait. This will benefit you in meetings and social gatherings that are easy to impact easily.

“Where words are restrained, the eyes often talk a great deal.” — Samuel Richardson.

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They consider their actions.

Not only physical gestures of direction but psychological traits of observing and understanding others condition on what they wanted at that moment is the one quality to have.

Attractive people support vulnerable people in their challenging phase by understanding their situation and giving them their best advice. To understand their situation, you must observe and build an emotional connection so that they can share their vulnerabilities.

As people find hesitating in public and will not share it aloud. You can be the individual to comfort their hesitation.

Emotional connection let people share pit-falls with you and link long-term relationships that make you appealing to them.

Bring the best version of everybody in contact with you by engaging them and providing them with confidence. Judge yourself first before pointing out to someone else.

“Before you successfully make friends with others, first you have to become your own friend.” — Stephen Richard

They embrace the right touch.

Sometimes words are not the right way to express, especially in love relationships. You need a quality of touch to let someone else know what you want to say even without saying it .

To increase engagement with people, you need to learn some ways like hugging with care, kisses, and hand-shaking which indicate that you are interested in that person without interacting in words.

These kind of body-language will impact more than words. This will show your standard and confidence.

People attract when you offer them the right care they want.

“What you think, you become. What you feel you attract. What you imagine, you create.” — Buddha.

They feel alluring inside.

The inner trait of appealing people — they themselves hail alone without considering other judgments in their lives because they are aware of its negative consequences — is that they celebrate individually.

As according to studies of psychology today: Ellen Mc Grath (Clinical psychologist)

“It is part of human conditions to see ourselves through the eye of others.” Which must be neglected as it will ruin you.

Confidence is the sword of their charm, not necessarily they are perfect in their appearance. They dress with confidence and speak with a smile.

Love yourself, to make people acclaim. Neglect the negative comments on your work. Must be certitude of your decisions. This makes you different from the crowd. Attend personal development classes to boost personality trait. As what you think you become before everyone.

“Evidence is conclusive that your self-talk has a direct bearing on your performance.” — Zig Ziglar.

They consider themselves as an instrument to play.

The last trait to attract others is by a great performance before them in confidence, activeness, engagement, and in honoring the people. Present your best version to others. Update yourself.

I am not asking you to be double- faced, to act like you are best in the group but to be positive in your performance in everything you face.

First get special treatment from people to expect it. For garbing the attention you must know how to lead them and bring them together with smartness. Act like a leader who thinks of people.

You have to honor them to make them feel wanted in your absence, to dismiss your insecurities.

“It’s easy to play a musical instrument: all you have to do is touch the right key at the right time and the instrument will play itself.” — Johann Sebastian Bach.

Bottom lines:

Self-talk is necessary to control your mind before acting in the desired way. Avoid anxious thinking in you or self-perception to perform better and attract more and more people to follow you.

They are many haters who feel jealous also of your personality. Let them burn.

Be a single heart personality who has only 1 goal to make people feel happy, fulfilled, and comfortable in your presence. This makes them consider you fascinating. And afterwards, you will create a unique individual honor in their minds.

This will work for you as a supporter in relationships and workplace to perform well.

Serving optimism with hope of better living, you can become extremely attractive and seek attention without even pretending.

Keep one thing in mind:

“Never band your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the eye.” — Helen Keller.

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Vaishnavi Paliwal
Vaishnavi Paliwal

Written by Vaishnavi Paliwal

Serving people with the power of writing. ✨ freelance writer. I write about business, marketing, personal growth and life. Twitter: vaishnavipaliwal 🕊

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